Recently I started a Bible Study/Discussion group that meets weekly at a Brewery here in town. I called it Beer and Bible and it has drawn an ever changing and eclectic group of individuals who have inspired some of the best and most insightful conversations I had ever had on the Bible, religion, and Christianity.
This week, I proposed a kind of different conversation for our group. I was inspired by the recent and overwhelmingly successful conference that was organized by Rachel Held Evans and Nadia Bolz-Webber called Why Christian? in which they had a series of speakers, all of whom were women, tell their story as to why they are active in the Christian faith. The speakers were from various denominations, backgrounds, races, ages, and experiences.
I thought this would be a great topic for our meeting as well. Why are we Christian? In a world in which Christianity has become embroiled in scandal, abuse, greed, and materialism, why are we surprised that so many young people are turning away from Christianity altogether? In the lead up to the meeting many of my online friends expressed interest in the topic, and many who had given up on Church long ago said that perhaps they could be inspired to return (although church and faith are definitely not the same thing).
In preparation for the meeting, I started thinking about what I might say about why I am a Christian and found that even for me, someone who's faith has been renewed to a level previously unimaginable, who has gained a new wondrous and mature understanding of God, spirituality, redemption, and belief, this was not an easy question.
So, first I looked at Why Not Christian? What are those things that have become associated with Christianity that are driving people away from the Christian faith in droves? The four main things I came up with were exclusivity, hatefulness, dying, and conservative. So, let's look at each of these a little more in depth so you know what I mean.
1. Exlusivity.
This, for me, was the one thing that drove me away from the church in which I was raised. I had found that the Catholic Church had become ridiculously exclusive. More and more, I found that I was feeling less and less welcome in the church in which I had been baptised, confirmed, and (at least the second time) married. I knew that the church had closed its doors completely to lesbians and gays (that is, unless they simply give up who they are and live celibate lives denying the very essence of their humanness), and had relegated women to official and permanent second class status.
But it was becoming more than simply ostracizing certain groups based on the way they were born. The Church was becoming more and more strict about what beliefs you espoused on issues that had nothing to do with religion itself. Your political beliefs, or your social beliefs started becoming fodder for membership in the church. If you voted for pro-choice candidates, or if you supported the legalization of same-sex marriage, this now became reason for denying you communion, essentially in the Catholic faith condemning you to an eternity in hell if you believed in that.
After leaving the Catholic church, and finding my way as a newly minted Episcopalian, I started noticing that this exclusivity was a major part of many Christian faiths. Defining what was "real Christianity" versus "false Christianity" became a theme in the teachings of many Christian preachers and followers. These types of Christians see themselves as being the exclusive owners of the Truth and use this view to condemn all others who don't believe exactly the same as they do. Their view of God is so small that it fits neatly in easily digestible platitudes. They survive off of control and fear and grow based on the dependence that this instills in their followers.
It's not hard to see how this negative, belittling view of Christianity would tend to drive those who are growing up in a culture that is increasingly open and accepting would turn away from such beliefs.
2. Hate
It's amazing that a church that was founded on the teachings of a man whose central theme was love would use their beliefs to spread hate against others. But the modern day Christian church is chock full of hate for "others" whoever they may be.
The most obvious target for this hate within Christianity is against LGBTQ individuals. God Hates Fags may be associated with the insane members of the Westboro Baptists Church who picket funerals of soldiers killed in combat, but the belief is one that is the foundation of much of the teaching going on in many if not most modern day Christian churches. The harm that Christianity has done to LGBT youth is unfathomable, leading to gays and lesbians living a miserable closeted existence, being constantly dishonest about who they are, and often leading to suicide.
But Christianity's hate is not reserved exclusively for LGBTQ people, but also those of other beliefs. Muslims are often the target of such vile hatred. If you took out the word "Muslim" from the rants of preachers like Franklin Graham it would be virtually impossible to distinguish them from the most radical member of ISIS railing against infidels.
Often this hate against different beliefs is turned against other Christians. Those who don't believe exactly the same way as we do are considered not to be True Christians. If you don't follow the exact tenants, use the exact same Bible, or act exactly the way we act, you are "other", impure, inauthentic.
Such ideas are out of step both with our modern culture as much as they are with the teachings of Jesus Christ himself.
3. Dying
Christianity is a dying religion. Its leaders are old. Its followers are old. Its beliefs are old. Christianity has no bearing or significance in our daily lives.
This is the view of many in our culture today. And it isn't difficult when you look at many of the leaders of the modern Christian church why that is. So many of our leaders seem to be concerned more about their bank balance, than their work to carry out the message of their Lord and Savior. When you see televangelists scamming poor widows out of their life savings so they can buy a bigger jet, or live in a bigger mansion, that religion deserves to go the way of the dinosaurs.
Christianity because of its insistence on rules, dogmas, and fear is losing its influence on our society. The fact that fewer and fewer Americans are calling themselves Christians or religious at all shows that the church is indeed dying.
4. Conservative
I don't mean this in a political sense, although it would fit that too. What I mean is that the church has ceased being bold, assertive, controversial. Christianity has become safe. So safe that it is boring.
A church that doesn't take chances, that doesn't challenge society's norms, that doesn't risk controversy is a church that is insignificant.
Now you will see all sorts of Christians claiming that they are radical. You will see them claiming that they are being persecuted by our secular laws. You will see them claiming that God has no place in our public life in the United States any longer. You will see them claiming that there are all sorts of plots against them to dismantle and attack Christianity.
This, of course, is all hog wash. I can't seem to escape religion in the public square however hard I may try. The only way that Christians are being persecuted or discriminated against is that they are not being allowed to force their beliefs on others (yet). Not being allowed to discriminate is not the same as being discriminated against. And nobody is forcing any church anywhere to do anything against their beliefs within their own church.
So, what it comes down to is that Christianity is very much in favor of the status quo. It is safe. It is insular. It is stayed.
And in all of that, it is insignificant.
So, with all of these very good reasons not to be Christian, why am I a Christian still?
It wasn't long ago that I really didn't consider myself to be much of a Christian, if one at all. I had the faith in which I was raised, and that still carried a significant cultural influence on me. But as I mentioned above, I no longer felt welcome at the church of my upbringing, nor did I feel the need to belong to a church at all. Religion played little role in my day to day life. Prayer was non-existent. If I had to choose a religion on a questionnaire I was just as likely to put None as I was to put Catholic or Christian.
So what is it that brought me back to the church? Really it was finding a church which reawakened my faith, re-introduced me to the teachings of Jesus Christ, and followed that teaching up with action, making these teachings relevant and significant to today's world. There are many people in what the newly installed Presiding Bishop in my Episcopal Church calls the Jesus Movement who follow this call to be a relevant active faith, taking on the challenges of modern society and making a significant impact on our world by following and living the Gospel and basing our lives on it.
So, what are the traits of the Christianity that I have found and adopted in my life? Not surprisingly, the Christianity that claimed me exhibits traits that are essentially the polar opposite of what the Christianity described above. We are open. We are inclusive and affirming. We are life giving and life affirming. And most importantly we are radical, like Jesus.
1. Open
One of the most significant things I found right away was that my faith and my church was one of openness. You don't have to be a particular type of person to be a Christian. You can be a Christian if you are rich, poor, white, black, Liberal, Conservative, Educated, Uneducated, gay, straight, male, female, transgender, or any number of descriptors you can come up with. God is not exclusive, so why should God's church be?
Jesus in his ministry did not turn people away. He went out to the people, meeting with tax collectors, thieves, lepers, Gentiles, prostitutes, demoniacs. He ministered to those who had been shut out of the accepted "in crowd" of the day. So why should we turn our backs on those who have been ostracized by our current society? Aren't these the very people that we are called to embrace if we are living like Jesus?
The Christianity I found is one of no limits. God is limitless, so the more barriers we God's followers put up, the less we are living out our faith; the less we are like God. When we love and welcome all people, whether they are like us in their beliefs, their appearance, their sexuality, and honor the divine in them, we are helping to create the Kingdom of God here on Earth, as Jesus himself taught us to pray for.
2. Inclusive and Affirming
This may seem similar to being open, but openness and inclusiveness are not the same. Affirming is a step further.
In order for Christianity to be inclusive, those barriers that have caused division within the church must be broken down. That means that exclusion based on sex, race, sexuality, etc. is not to be tolerated. Women must be equal with men. Gay equal with straight. Black equal with white. Transgender equal with Cis-gender. To exclude is to lessen both ourselves and God.
For many the inclusion of even women as equals in worship is unfathomable. But for me, the father of a daughter, the brother of sisters, and the son of a mother, anything less than true equality between the sexes was unacceptable. I wanted my daughter to know that she was truly the equal of anyone and there was no better way to see that than to see a person of her gender acting as God's representative in worship.
Even more unacceptable to many Christians than women having an equal role in the church is openly LGBTQ people playing an equal role. Of course, to get to this point you need to see LGBTQ people as people rather than behaviors. What I have experienced in belonging to an affirming church, one that says to its members we love and accept you for who you are and because of who you are, is the most amazing thing in the world. Those who have felt shunned, sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally, from the Christian church because of who they are, become filled with a joy and Grace that can only come from God. When one realizes that they are loved as a child of God wholly including their sexuality, you see a transformation that is truly beautiful.
Imagine going your whole life thinking that you are shameful. That whatever good you have in you, because of who you are and how you express sexual love, you can never be accepted fully by God and that you are condemned for it? That is what too many Christians are doing to the LGBTQ community.
But that is not what Christ would do. That is not what we as Christians are called to do. We are all children of God wholly, and completely, warts and all.
3. Life Giving and Life Affirming.
Seeing the life of Jesus Christ and especially his death and resurrection as a template for my life has been an incredible discovery. We constantly go through a process of life, death, and resurrection. We live our lives, constantly changing, constantly renewing, constantly being reborn. Every death is painful, bringing on sorrow and a period of mourning. But it is followed by a rebirth, a new beginning, and the renewal of life again.
A church (and by church I mean a group of believers, not a building or a particular denomination) that is life giving and life affirming will not sit back and watch the world go by. A church filled with life can't help but spread that life to others. That means feeding the hungry, clothing the naked, helping the poor, uplifting the weak, fighting for justice. Life breeds life.
A church that respects life -- all life -- will stand firm on issues that destroy life. A life giving and life affirming church will work to stop war, will work to stop executions, will work to stop violence. This is what I have found in Christianity.
4. Radical Like Jesus
Above I described a Christianity that had become conservative, boring, institutional. A Christianity that was safe, working for the status quo. This is Country Club Christianity, where you belong to be seen and to rub elbows with power brokers. Just look at the group of wealthy parasites that Franklin Graham dredged up for his father's birthday celebration a few years back and you start to see why there is an ever growing army of "Nones" in this country.
But the Christianity I have found and lived is true to the radical nature of Jesus himself. Jesus didn't get nailed to a Cross because he wanted things to stay the same. Jesus challenged every societal and religious norm that existed in his time and in his culture. Love your neighbor as yourself. Love your enemies. Do to others as you would have them do to you. His teachings on social justice present a picture of what the Kingdom of God will hold on Earth if we simply follow the teachings of Jesus and put our faith in God. Jesus turned the entire social structure of his day on its head.
We are called to follow Jesus's teachings and to do the same today. Christians are not called to be safe. We are not called to be timid. Christians are called to be like Christ -- bold, brave, radical. We are called to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable. We are called to seek justice constantly, and not meekly, but loudly and forcefully. We are called to love, not when it is easy, but when it is hard, to love those who would hurt us the most, or who have hurt us the most.
It seems weird in a society where such a large percentage of our populace claims some form of Christianity or another as their religion that they mistakenly believe that we were founded as a Christian nation, that being a Christian could be counter-cultural. But that is what believing in the teachings of Jesus Christ and living our life according to these beliefs is. It is radical. It is against the grain. It is revolutionary.
To meet hate with love. To meet violence with pacifism. To meet fear with faith. These are radical ideas. They are what Jesus charged us to do if we were to follow Him. This is why I am Christian.
It's not hard to see how this negative, belittling view of Christianity would tend to drive those who are growing up in a culture that is increasingly open and accepting would turn away from such beliefs.
2. Hate
It's amazing that a church that was founded on the teachings of a man whose central theme was love would use their beliefs to spread hate against others. But the modern day Christian church is chock full of hate for "others" whoever they may be.
The most obvious target for this hate within Christianity is against LGBTQ individuals. God Hates Fags may be associated with the insane members of the Westboro Baptists Church who picket funerals of soldiers killed in combat, but the belief is one that is the foundation of much of the teaching going on in many if not most modern day Christian churches. The harm that Christianity has done to LGBT youth is unfathomable, leading to gays and lesbians living a miserable closeted existence, being constantly dishonest about who they are, and often leading to suicide.
But Christianity's hate is not reserved exclusively for LGBTQ people, but also those of other beliefs. Muslims are often the target of such vile hatred. If you took out the word "Muslim" from the rants of preachers like Franklin Graham it would be virtually impossible to distinguish them from the most radical member of ISIS railing against infidels.
Often this hate against different beliefs is turned against other Christians. Those who don't believe exactly the same way as we do are considered not to be True Christians. If you don't follow the exact tenants, use the exact same Bible, or act exactly the way we act, you are "other", impure, inauthentic.
Such ideas are out of step both with our modern culture as much as they are with the teachings of Jesus Christ himself.
3. Dying
Christianity is a dying religion. Its leaders are old. Its followers are old. Its beliefs are old. Christianity has no bearing or significance in our daily lives.
This is the view of many in our culture today. And it isn't difficult when you look at many of the leaders of the modern Christian church why that is. So many of our leaders seem to be concerned more about their bank balance, than their work to carry out the message of their Lord and Savior. When you see televangelists scamming poor widows out of their life savings so they can buy a bigger jet, or live in a bigger mansion, that religion deserves to go the way of the dinosaurs.
Christianity because of its insistence on rules, dogmas, and fear is losing its influence on our society. The fact that fewer and fewer Americans are calling themselves Christians or religious at all shows that the church is indeed dying.
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| Billy Graham surrounded by a gaggle of rich, powerful power brokers from Rupert Murdoch, to Sarah Palin to Donald Trump. |
4. Conservative
I don't mean this in a political sense, although it would fit that too. What I mean is that the church has ceased being bold, assertive, controversial. Christianity has become safe. So safe that it is boring.
A church that doesn't take chances, that doesn't challenge society's norms, that doesn't risk controversy is a church that is insignificant.
Now you will see all sorts of Christians claiming that they are radical. You will see them claiming that they are being persecuted by our secular laws. You will see them claiming that God has no place in our public life in the United States any longer. You will see them claiming that there are all sorts of plots against them to dismantle and attack Christianity.
This, of course, is all hog wash. I can't seem to escape religion in the public square however hard I may try. The only way that Christians are being persecuted or discriminated against is that they are not being allowed to force their beliefs on others (yet). Not being allowed to discriminate is not the same as being discriminated against. And nobody is forcing any church anywhere to do anything against their beliefs within their own church.
So, what it comes down to is that Christianity is very much in favor of the status quo. It is safe. It is insular. It is stayed.
And in all of that, it is insignificant.
So, with all of these very good reasons not to be Christian, why am I a Christian still?
It wasn't long ago that I really didn't consider myself to be much of a Christian, if one at all. I had the faith in which I was raised, and that still carried a significant cultural influence on me. But as I mentioned above, I no longer felt welcome at the church of my upbringing, nor did I feel the need to belong to a church at all. Religion played little role in my day to day life. Prayer was non-existent. If I had to choose a religion on a questionnaire I was just as likely to put None as I was to put Catholic or Christian.
So what is it that brought me back to the church? Really it was finding a church which reawakened my faith, re-introduced me to the teachings of Jesus Christ, and followed that teaching up with action, making these teachings relevant and significant to today's world. There are many people in what the newly installed Presiding Bishop in my Episcopal Church calls the Jesus Movement who follow this call to be a relevant active faith, taking on the challenges of modern society and making a significant impact on our world by following and living the Gospel and basing our lives on it.
So, what are the traits of the Christianity that I have found and adopted in my life? Not surprisingly, the Christianity that claimed me exhibits traits that are essentially the polar opposite of what the Christianity described above. We are open. We are inclusive and affirming. We are life giving and life affirming. And most importantly we are radical, like Jesus.
1. Open
One of the most significant things I found right away was that my faith and my church was one of openness. You don't have to be a particular type of person to be a Christian. You can be a Christian if you are rich, poor, white, black, Liberal, Conservative, Educated, Uneducated, gay, straight, male, female, transgender, or any number of descriptors you can come up with. God is not exclusive, so why should God's church be?
Jesus in his ministry did not turn people away. He went out to the people, meeting with tax collectors, thieves, lepers, Gentiles, prostitutes, demoniacs. He ministered to those who had been shut out of the accepted "in crowd" of the day. So why should we turn our backs on those who have been ostracized by our current society? Aren't these the very people that we are called to embrace if we are living like Jesus?
The Christianity I found is one of no limits. God is limitless, so the more barriers we God's followers put up, the less we are living out our faith; the less we are like God. When we love and welcome all people, whether they are like us in their beliefs, their appearance, their sexuality, and honor the divine in them, we are helping to create the Kingdom of God here on Earth, as Jesus himself taught us to pray for.
2. Inclusive and Affirming
This may seem similar to being open, but openness and inclusiveness are not the same. Affirming is a step further.
In order for Christianity to be inclusive, those barriers that have caused division within the church must be broken down. That means that exclusion based on sex, race, sexuality, etc. is not to be tolerated. Women must be equal with men. Gay equal with straight. Black equal with white. Transgender equal with Cis-gender. To exclude is to lessen both ourselves and God.
For many the inclusion of even women as equals in worship is unfathomable. But for me, the father of a daughter, the brother of sisters, and the son of a mother, anything less than true equality between the sexes was unacceptable. I wanted my daughter to know that she was truly the equal of anyone and there was no better way to see that than to see a person of her gender acting as God's representative in worship.
Even more unacceptable to many Christians than women having an equal role in the church is openly LGBTQ people playing an equal role. Of course, to get to this point you need to see LGBTQ people as people rather than behaviors. What I have experienced in belonging to an affirming church, one that says to its members we love and accept you for who you are and because of who you are, is the most amazing thing in the world. Those who have felt shunned, sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally, from the Christian church because of who they are, become filled with a joy and Grace that can only come from God. When one realizes that they are loved as a child of God wholly including their sexuality, you see a transformation that is truly beautiful.
Imagine going your whole life thinking that you are shameful. That whatever good you have in you, because of who you are and how you express sexual love, you can never be accepted fully by God and that you are condemned for it? That is what too many Christians are doing to the LGBTQ community.
But that is not what Christ would do. That is not what we as Christians are called to do. We are all children of God wholly, and completely, warts and all.
3. Life Giving and Life Affirming.
Seeing the life of Jesus Christ and especially his death and resurrection as a template for my life has been an incredible discovery. We constantly go through a process of life, death, and resurrection. We live our lives, constantly changing, constantly renewing, constantly being reborn. Every death is painful, bringing on sorrow and a period of mourning. But it is followed by a rebirth, a new beginning, and the renewal of life again.
A church (and by church I mean a group of believers, not a building or a particular denomination) that is life giving and life affirming will not sit back and watch the world go by. A church filled with life can't help but spread that life to others. That means feeding the hungry, clothing the naked, helping the poor, uplifting the weak, fighting for justice. Life breeds life.
A church that respects life -- all life -- will stand firm on issues that destroy life. A life giving and life affirming church will work to stop war, will work to stop executions, will work to stop violence. This is what I have found in Christianity.
4. Radical Like Jesus
Above I described a Christianity that had become conservative, boring, institutional. A Christianity that was safe, working for the status quo. This is Country Club Christianity, where you belong to be seen and to rub elbows with power brokers. Just look at the group of wealthy parasites that Franklin Graham dredged up for his father's birthday celebration a few years back and you start to see why there is an ever growing army of "Nones" in this country.
But the Christianity I have found and lived is true to the radical nature of Jesus himself. Jesus didn't get nailed to a Cross because he wanted things to stay the same. Jesus challenged every societal and religious norm that existed in his time and in his culture. Love your neighbor as yourself. Love your enemies. Do to others as you would have them do to you. His teachings on social justice present a picture of what the Kingdom of God will hold on Earth if we simply follow the teachings of Jesus and put our faith in God. Jesus turned the entire social structure of his day on its head.
We are called to follow Jesus's teachings and to do the same today. Christians are not called to be safe. We are not called to be timid. Christians are called to be like Christ -- bold, brave, radical. We are called to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable. We are called to seek justice constantly, and not meekly, but loudly and forcefully. We are called to love, not when it is easy, but when it is hard, to love those who would hurt us the most, or who have hurt us the most.
It seems weird in a society where such a large percentage of our populace claims some form of Christianity or another as their religion that they mistakenly believe that we were founded as a Christian nation, that being a Christian could be counter-cultural. But that is what believing in the teachings of Jesus Christ and living our life according to these beliefs is. It is radical. It is against the grain. It is revolutionary.
To meet hate with love. To meet violence with pacifism. To meet fear with faith. These are radical ideas. They are what Jesus charged us to do if we were to follow Him. This is why I am Christian.
